How to solve every relationship problem
In every relationship, there will always be relationship problems. A relationship without problems is a dull and non-functional relationship. You mustn’t see problems as bad things. Sometimes problems could be useful for your relationship. They could be regarded as a milestone of a relationship, where a serious relationship usually has many problems at different levels. They could also be regarded as a ‘love test’, which will strengthen a couple’s bond if this particular couple could successfully solve those problems. So, when you face some relationship problems, what is the best way to solve it?
The root of all problems in a relationship is usually the lack of communication. A couple could experience many kinds of relationship problems: financial problems, boredom, sexual problems, infidelity, and so on. However, most of the time they could solve them with the right form of communication. Many couples couldn’t solve even the smallest problems because of the lack of communication. It is very important to communicate all your feelings with your lover, because he or she might not even know if both of you are actually having trouble. Also, most of the time communication gap would create misunderstanding between both parties.
Another important aspect of solving relationship problems is the way you communicate with your lover. Many couple fails to understand this. This is not a fight you must win, but rather, this is a way to find a solution that could benefit both of you. Avoid any screaming or yelling; when you’re yelling, you’re just letting your emotion takes control, you won’t be able to think clearly nor you will be able to hear your lover opinion. Bad communication would always mean a worse problem, so it is important to keep your temper down even though you feel very angry and you’re very sure that your lover is the guilty one. You might see a new perspective after this conversation.
Often, both of you need to sacrifice something in order to meet an agreement. Many problems couldn’t just be solved by telling your lover you had a problem, many would require a solid teamwork from both of you to solve it. For example, if both of you have financial problems, both parties have to agree to tone down the lifestyle and be willing to work harder in order to gain more income. Don’t leave this to only one person. Same thing applies to any problem related with sexual pleasure. If a person blames his or her lover for the cause of this problem, I could ensure you that this will end in either infidelity or a break up.
If you think that you couldn’t solve your relationship problems by just communicating with your lover, you might want to try for a therapist’s service. Hopefully, this therapist could mediate both of you so your relationship could be saved. However, it must be noted that without a strong determination to solve the problem from both parties, going to a therapist would just a waste of money and time; it might even be a shortcut to break up or divorce.
As time goes and many relationship problems solved, a couple could understand each other better, and their bond would be much stronger. Their relationship could be even stronger than the first time they committed to make the relationship. Don’t treat a problem as highway to break up, but think of it as a slippery ladder, which could help both of you reach a higher level of relationship. However, you should also always think rationally, if your lover keep making the same problem over and over, it would be better to think about your relationship again. It’s not a relationship if you constantly suffer from your lover’s behavior.